Every New Year you get another opportunity to take a risk of knowing how incredible you truly are. I say risk because once you allow yourself to align with the fact that ‘you are enough’: what are you going to do with that truth. It is a responsibility is it not? But I digress.
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… Allow your loneliness time
To dissolve the shell of dross
That had closed around you;
Choose in this severe silence
To hear the one true voice
Your rushed life fears,
Cradle yourself like a child
Learning to trust what emerges,
So that gradually
You may come to know … The glimmer of springtime
(John O’ Donohue)
Let go of winter’s grip and allow spring to open your heart to new possibilities. “To everything there is a season…” (Ecclesiastes) Is spring your season? For some of us, New Year’s resolutions have grown cold, because the timing was not right, and our seeds of change had to germinate for a while longer in darkness
“How long has it been since I slept a whole night in a twin bed with a stranger?” (Joan Baez)
How long has it been since you allowed yourself to feel a wildness, a full heart experience whereby you lost yourself totally in the moment?
How long has it been since you set aside customary rules, thinking and shoulds to do something that has been burning inside?
"Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it”― Gautama Buddha
Desire without attachment is not possible. Desire is the propeller that moves us forward towards a fulfillment. Sometimes in an effort to stay safe we squelch our desires to the point we no longer know what they are. Desirelessness is not a state to stay in.
How to get More of what You Really want in Intimate Relationships:
As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I have had a front row seat, to observe the many ways women sabotage themselves when it comes to having more of what they want/need in intimate relationships.
And now let us welcome the New Year full of things that have never been - Rainer Marie Rilke
The New Year is- an opportunity to journey within, and write a new chapter in your life. It is time to stop if for just a few moments, start a journal and write down your reflections, hopes, as well as your dreams. Explore how you have honored them in your life so far and especially the part you want them to play in the coming year, Reflect on your yearnings, as well as your longings that get tucked away (until there is time). As you journal ask yourself some of the following questions.
Why am I getting Muddied Results?
We manifest in our lives whatever we give our attention and energy to or focus on, positive or negative. The Law is always working whether we are consciously directing it or not. The outcome of the Law is influenced by many factors however the following three are important to remember.
Desire is the force which sets energy in motion
Fear is an obstacle by which the current is stopped or completely reversed (turned away from us)
Doubt; at best doubt muddies the waters, Doubt is that place we go to when we have an inner glitch or stopper that delays us due to feeling a lack of worthiness in regards to attaining what we desire.
The last two months of the year usually finds us in a frantic state of shopping, decorating, cooking and travelling, so is it any wonder we are more stressed than cheerful. Having so many "to do" lists, we are wound up and too exhausted to enjoy that which normally makes us happy, as in cherished traditions and intimate family gatherings. There is an underlying expectation at this time of the year, that everybody is supposed to be cheerful, and to some degree caught up in the frenetic activity. The external pressure of being 'merry' creates an unrealistic goal for many of us.
Life if full of transitions and as this one goes; summer into autumn may not be a highly dramatic Neiman Marcus moment. It may be a more practical down to earth restocking of our shelves and inner selves. What is important here is the attitude you bring to the restocking. If you do it mindfully this seasonal transition provides an opportunity to live life in a more meaningful way with eyes wide open. If we are not mindful summer can merge into autumn finding us picking up the pace of school, games, hunting, parties etc in an automatic headless, unfulfilling way.