Emotional Eating is not about food or physical hunger. It is about using food to avoid feeling bad or to feed a feeling that something is missing.
I’m currently developing a course to help Women to break the cycle of emotional eating.
Today, I stress the importance of beginning at a new place: Step 1.
The most important step.
Get Still.
Since my desire is to help you to stop emotional eating, why then am asking you to get still?
What I know for sure is that once you accept and practice this step the rest of our journey will flow, and success can be yours beyond your wildest dreams. But you must stop doing things your usual way of doing, ploughing ahead without stopping to review where you are and where you desire to be.
“Tell me what it is you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
(Mary Oliver)
Pause and remind yourself, “I am the main ingredient here.” Imagine if you had the time that you spend on dampening the cauldron of feelings with emotional eating available for joy, peace, happiness, really living?
Simple right? Why is it so hard to do? The pausing.
It is precisely because of its power that many of us are fearful of getting still and reviewing our lives as they are right now at this moment.
“Are you asking me to be still a woman asked? Oh no I can’t or won’t do that”. When asked why not, she told me she was afraid of what would happen. “I need to make changes I know that part, but if I ever started it would never stop; endless. I am afraid to start. I don’t want to start digging and besides when I get quiet, I feel bad”.
So, what really happens when we go mindlessly into the next project, the next diet, the next decade without reviewing our story. Without fully understanding why you destress with food, eat when you are lonely, sad, angry, tired, sleep deprived, love starved, anxious, or avoiding sex?
Getting still is an act of kindness toward ourselves.
(If you need help getting there, I offer a free 9 minute Relaxation experience).
This powerful space allows us to become fully aware of all aspects of our story and hopefully towards accepting what is. Our usual headlong busyness cannot work. We have done this before. What happened.? It is indeed harmful to our sense of personal power our confidence whether we realize it or not.
One reason we might want to stop is to realize if we do not make it a part of our life story, we tend to mindlessly practice the opposite. For instance, every time we get angry without awareness, we reinforce the anger habit. Every time we numb our feelings with food, we get better at it and are more apt to get even more entrenched in the habit.
Practice Pausing.
I ask you to begin by pausing by devoting a journal to review your Food Story what it is now, and what you desire. Date every entry even if you think it is insignificant. Nothing about your story and struggle is insignificant.
Planes pause before they soar into the beauty and freedom of flight. You too can have mastery and freedom.
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