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The Upside of Failure

When we list our desires, wants and life goals, we often omit “failure”. We must fail if we are to risk living passionate lives. We live in a culture that has become soft, in that it conditions us to seek comfort and avoid discomfort. There is a lack of appreciation for the wisdom that hardship bestows. There is an illusion that it is possible to live in a world where things come easily and failure can be avoided, and if your life is not “this ideal,” there is something is wrong with you. We will naturally take the path of least resistance, clinging to the familiar, staying within our restricted safe places in an attempt to control the outcome.

Success Can Be Yours

Many of us, at a deep level, are afraid of success. On surface, we declare that we are going for the gold, the Ph.D., own a business…be the best! That which actually manifests in our life may be something entirely different. What is certain is that our core beliefs will express in our life regardless of what we say. When there is conflict between conscious wants and unconscious beliefs guess what manifests. The unconscious has the most powerful influence on the level of success evident in our lives.

Love the Dark Side of Your Moon

"Everyone is a moon and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody."  Twain

(The following is an excerpt from my latest book - "Journey into a Passionate Life." There is a companion workbook for those who want the tools and guidance to delve deeper into that part of self that they try desperately to hide.. The complete chapter may be read on my website

“Every one is a moon, and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody.” (Twain, 1897)

Whose Beliefs Are You Believing?

Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Rainer Maria Rilke

In “The Road Less Travelled”, Scott Peck says the God of our youth is a second hand one. Just like family recipes, passed down and nobody questions the validity of the ingredients, we do not change them to breathe new flavor into the food. Same with God. Peck adds it is imperative we search and create an up close and personal relationship with God that evolves with us throughout our lives. If we are to grow into wise adults, it is necessary for our idea of God to grow with us.

Keys to Letting Go of Procrastination

When we procrastinate, we put our dreams, our hopes and our yearnings on hold. We put things off under the illusion that we will get to them someday, when there is more of time. We deny fears and postpone action while covering ourselves up with layers of excuses, like an onion. We deny the biggest obstacle holding us back. It is us! So how can we lick that “old devil” called procrastination that allows us to squander so many precious minutes, hours and even days? Delaying what we need to do feeds our fears instead of our courage and passion for life.

How to Win Your Struggle with Losing Weight!

There are a multitude of reasons why people struggle with weight control, many of which are unconscious. It's not just about the food! Without recognizing and understanding your opponent, your struggle will continue to bring more of the same results. I will assist you in identifying what you are up against; as well as a range of reasons that hold you back. I offer you strategies to release the obstacles that get in the way of managing your weight. I encourage you, and show you how to give yourself an inner permission to succeed..

What Does Your Busyness Really Mean?

“There is more to life than increasing its speed” (Gandhi & Desai, 1957)

Life can be likened to a deep forest and on occasion we get lost in creating our path through it. If we are determined to find our way, it is necessary to face the fears and doubts that are always lurking, keeping us stuck when we do not face them. We cannot wait until the day arrives when there is an absence of fears and doubts, as it does not happen. If the forest is a metaphor for life, why do so many of us stay close to the entry not venturing in?