Every New Year you get another opportunity to take a risk of knowing how incredible you truly are. I say risk because once you allow yourself to align with the fact that ‘you are enough’: what are you going to do with that truth. It is a responsibility is it not? But I digress.
Let go of winter’s grip and allow spring to open your heart to new possibilities. “To everything there is a season…” (Ecclesiastes) Is spring your season? For some of us, New Year’s resolutions have grown cold, because the timing was not right, and our seeds of change had to germinate for a while longer in darkness
“Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forward.” Soren Kierkegaard (Kierkegaard & Dru, 2003)
And now let us welcome the New Year full of things that have never been - Rainer Marie Rilke
The New Year is- an opportunity to journey within, and write a new chapter in your life. It is time to stop if for just a few moments, start a journal and write down your reflections, hopes, as well as your dreams. Explore how you have honored them in your life so far and especially the part you want them to play in the coming year, Reflect on your yearnings, as well as your longings that get tucked away (until there is time). As you journal ask yourself some of the following questions.
The last two months of the year usually finds us in a frantic state of shopping, decorating, cooking and travelling, so is it any wonder we are more stressed than cheerful. Having so many "to do" lists, we are wound up and too exhausted to enjoy that which normally makes us happy, as in cherished traditions and intimate family gatherings. There is an underlying expectation at this time of the year, that everybody is supposed to be cheerful, and to some degree caught up in the frenetic activity. The external pressure of being 'merry' creates an unrealistic goal for many of us.
Life if full of transitions and as this one goes; summer into autumn may not be a highly dramatic Neiman Marcus moment. It may be a more practical down to earth restocking of our shelves and inner selves. What is important here is the attitude you bring to the restocking. If you do it mindfully this seasonal transition provides an opportunity to live life in a more meaningful way with eyes wide open. If we are not mindful summer can merge into autumn finding us picking up the pace of school, games, hunting, parties etc in an automatic headless, unfulfilling way.
Fear tends to make us feel helpless, and out of control. Often the fear of change is attached to a core belief we absorbed about the world when we were small and truly helpless. We were dependent on significant others, who may not have been there for us, for one reason or another. As a result our needs for protection, safety and validation were not filled and at that time there was nothing we could do about it. From such experiences we absorb beliefs such as nobody is there for us, the world is not safe, we are helpless, and there is nothing we can do about it.
Since change is the only constant in our lives, why is it so frightening to choose to change? Often it is thrust upon us and we didn’t see it coming. It may come in a way that cuts us off at the knees, such as having life, as we know it obliterated, like a tornado or hurricane. Somehow when such happens, time and time again we observe people having the courage and determination to reach down into their reservoir of resilience to deal with catastrophe. Where did all their courage, fearlessness, faith, determination come from, we ask ourselves. How were they able to do it?