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Autumn has always been a poignant time for me .Growing up in Newfoundland, summers were short and autumns not dependable: often fleeting and uncertain as the grip of winter often takes over as early as Halloween. Even today as I write you from Alabama, in sunshine, the poignancy remains. A Nat King Cole, “Autumn Leaves” kind of poignancy.

GRATITUDE

There is more to being grateful   than the thanks we give, when we get what we desire. What about the things that did not come our way, by the grace of God.  Because the desire was formed with pride and ego, we could have been crushed and we were spared.

Can you get up in the morning, after no sleep and feed the children, to start the day with gratitude?

Can you be grateful for your confusing fog of not knowing which way to turn, which may be protecting you from stepping too quickly, or going in the wrong direction?

2016 is an Open Door: Step over the Threshold

Every New Year you get another opportunity to take a risk of knowing how incredible you truly are. I say risk because once you allow yourself to align with the fact that ‘you are enough’: what are you going to do with that truth. It is a responsibility is it not? But I digress.

I love the Idea that every New Year we get an opportunity to have a do over:  a chance to make a course correction. By this I do not necessarily mean the external changes we need to make, but it could be. My emphasis is more about the internal, emotional shifts necessary to realize that the only way to self discovery and out of our boxes is through.

Spring Forward: Another Chance

Let go of winter’s grip and allow spring to open your heart to new possibilities. “To everything there is a season…” (Ecclesiastes)    Is spring your season?  For some of us, New Year’s resolutions have grown cold, because the timing was not right, and our seeds of change had to germinate for a while longer in darkness

The poet, David Whyte says the time involved from the beginning of change, until it expresses in the external, can take a few years. I remember some major changes in my life germinating much longer than a few years. But then, I am a turtle, not the hare, as my idealized self would like to be.

A New Beginning

And now let us welcome the New Year full of things that have never been - Rainer Marie Rilke

The New Year is- an opportunity to journey within, and write a new chapter in your life.  It is time to stop if for just a few moments, start a journal and write down your reflections, hopes, as well as your dreams.  Explore how you have honored them in your life so far and especially the part you want them to play in the coming year,  Reflect on your yearnings, as well as your longings that get tucked away (until there is time).  As you journal ask yourself some of the following questions.

It's That Time of Year

The last two months of the year usually finds us in a frantic state of shopping, decorating, cooking and travelling, so is it any wonder we are more stressed than cheerful.  Having so many "to do" lists, we are wound up and too exhausted to enjoy that which normally makes us happy, as in cherished traditions and intimate family gatherings.  There is an underlying expectation at this time of the year, that everybody is supposed to be cheerful, and to some degree caught up in the frenetic activity.  The external pressure of being 'merry' creates an unrealistic goal for many of us.

Autumn Leaves

Life if full of transitions and as this one goes; summer into autumn may not be a highly dramatic Neiman Marcus moment.  It may be a more practical down to earth restocking of our shelves and inner selves.  What is important here is the attitude you bring to the restocking.  If you do it mindfully this seasonal transition provides an opportunity to live life in a more meaningful way with eyes wide open.  If we are not mindful summer can merge into autumn finding us picking up the pace of school, games, hunting, parties etc in an automatic headless, unfulfilling way.

Fear of Change

Fear tends to make us feel helpless, and out of control.  Often the fear of change is attached to a core belief we absorbed about the world when we were small and truly helpless.  We were dependent on significant others, who may not have been there for us, for one reason or another.  As a result our needs for protection, safety and validation were not filled and at that time there was nothing we could do about it.  From such experiences we absorb beliefs such as nobody is there for us,  the world is not safe, we are helpless, and there is nothing we can do about it. 

Change Is The Only Constant

Since change is the only constant in our lives, why is it so frightening to choose to change? Often it is thrust upon us and we didn’t see it coming. It may come in a way that cuts us off at the knees, such as having life, as we know it obliterated, like a tornado or hurricane. Somehow when such happens, time and time again we observe people having the courage and determination to reach down into their reservoir of resilience to deal with catastrophe. Where did all their courage, fearlessness, faith, determination come from, we ask ourselves. How were they able to do it? For most of us it takes a crisis, a howling hurt, to send us into that deep well of greater capacity.